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Getting dropped for the ex?
ricejerry25 asked:
I got dumped last night by a woman I was seeing, for an ex-boyfriend of hers of 3 years who is a pot-head, pill-taker, and works as a baggage handler at the airport. The stigma of it is that she was trying to seal a “loser” status on myself because I recently lost my job. Myself, I’m 27, a college graduate, attending law school(am doing well have a 3.7 GPA), live alone, was working full-time, don’t do drugs, don’t take pills, not an alcoholic, am professional, and always try to treat others how I want to be treated, have goals and objectives, don’t have any children, and never was married. However, I know I’m not perfect but I am a good person who also is good-looking as well. Herself, she’s 32, lives with a gay roommate and several cats, takes anti-depressants, an alcoholic, got a DUI, is somewhat slutty and will sleep with anybody after a few drinks, works for an airline, and also as a customer service representative. How do I move on from this and not feel burnt or hurt?
She emailed the very next day saying that she was truly sorry for hurting me, and doesn’t quite remember what all she said to me. She also stated in the email that she hopes I don’t hate her. She confessed all to what she had done, and agreed it was totally wrong. Does this mean in a roundabout way she was trying to push me away, and got an unexpected reaction out of me, and feels bad, sorry, or hurt that she hurt me in the process? Or does this mean she was just totally trashed and did not have any control over what she was doing that evening? Or does this mean she is just one totally mixed up woman with issues?
I got dumped last night by a woman I was seeing, for an ex-boyfriend of hers of 3 years who is a pot-head, pill-taker, and works as a baggage handler at the airport. The stigma of it is that she was trying to seal a “loser” status on myself because I recently lost my job. Myself, I’m 27, a college graduate, attending law school(am doing well have a 3.7 GPA), live alone, was working full-time, don’t do drugs, don’t take pills, not an alcoholic, am professional, and always try to treat others how I want to be treated, have goals and objectives, don’t have any children, and never was married. However, I know I’m not perfect but I am a good person who also is good-looking as well. Herself, she’s 32, lives with a gay roommate and several cats, takes anti-depressants, an alcoholic, got a DUI, is somewhat slutty and will sleep with anybody after a few drinks, works for an airline, and also as a customer service representative. How do I move on from this and not feel burnt or hurt?
She emailed the very next day saying that she was truly sorry for hurting me, and doesn’t quite remember what all she said to me. She also stated in the email that she hopes I don’t hate her. She confessed all to what she had done, and agreed it was totally wrong. Does this mean in a roundabout way she was trying to push me away, and got an unexpected reaction out of me, and feels bad, sorry, or hurt that she hurt me in the process? Or does this mean she was just totally trashed and did not have any control over what she was doing that evening? Or does this mean she is just one totally mixed up woman with issues?
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13. May 2008 at 1:05 pm :
obviously she thinks she’s gonna be happier with him, than with you… perhaps you need to take a long hard look at yourself…
13. May 2008 at 11:54 pm :
Just move on, you are definately the stronger person in this relationship, you have nothing to loose by moving on.
Stay strong and keep on with your degree good luck for the future!
16. May 2008 at 2:56 pm :
I think you have had a lucky escape. This woman obviously loves her ex and some people no matter how bad they are treated, if they love the person they will put up with anything. I have been there, see my previous questions.
Get yourself someone you deserve, you have prospects and a life ahead of you, if you stayed with this woman she would drag you down emotionally. Good Luck
16. May 2008 at 6:41 pm :
dude..she dumped you for her skanky ex…deep down I know you know she is not worth it by doing that…Forget about her move on tell her see ya and find someone who will love you for you!
18. May 2008 at 1:06 am :
Well, if you say those sorts of things about her, why would you want her anyway? Your ego has taken a bashing as she has gone off with someone who you feel is inferior to you. But from what you say you feel she is inferior too, so it shouldn’t take long for your oversized ego to comfort you and all will be well in your perfect world.
20. May 2008 at 4:27 pm :
you have self esteem issues I mean listen to yourself……………………….. she’s 32, lives with a gay roommate and several cats, takes anti-depressants, an alcoholic, got a DUI, is somewhat slutty and will sleep with anybody after a few drinks,……………………. dude you are not going to be a good lawyer if you cant see this one coming. I mean s#@#! come on.
21. May 2008 at 8:38 am :
move and dont look back she needs 2 grow up! as for you open another door in your life and see what you want, just dont pick up the trash you picked up once[{{{{ learn from your mistakes}
24. May 2008 at 7:33 am :
1st of all u sound like a great man, and that woman is stupid for leaving u for that bumb
drugy!!!
she is obv mixed up and must still be in love with that toe rag, and maybe didnt mean all the thngs she said, altho, drnk makes u say what u trully mean!!…
i thnk you shuould get well away from that woman, and start fresh, u dont need that baggage, and her troubles piled on you. she sounds no good..
goodluck. x
25. May 2008 at 8:19 pm :
If you are as smart as you say you are, “What are you doing???????”. You know this girl is just going to bring you down no matter how much you “love” her. She will take all your hard work and make it for nothing. What if you had a client and they came in and said they were thinking of marrying a women and they described your girlfriend to a tee? If they asked your opinion as a lawyer what you thought their chances were of staying together or her aiding them in life journeys, such as, getting married, having children, preparing business dinners and holiday get togethers. Would you trust her with your checkbook? Would you trust her if you had to leave town. Do you trust her to use protection when she is with these other men? Do you really want to work so hard to get through college only to become infected with a STD and your life be over before it ever started? Just stop and think with your head. Get out of this relationship and concentrate on getting through school. The right girl will come along or maybe even this one will get her partying days over with. If that happens, just make sure she’s tested and off the pills and alcohol. Good luck.
26. May 2008 at 6:26 am :
Hi, move on from this woman because she has too many issues. She drinks and she sleeps with men, she do not know. Why worry about this woman, it seems her and her ex-boyfriend make a great couple.
Move on and finish law school. Congrats on the grades and eventually things will be better in the long run when it comes to the job situation.
You will feel hurt but think about this why would you want to deal with a woman who would not know you when she wakes up because of alcohol. She does not believe in commitment so you did not miss much.
So please from this advice, find another job(part-time), finish law school, shake your groove thing when you graduate and enjoy your life.
Look at it this way, you beat the AIDS bullet. Think about that.
27. May 2008 at 12:59 am :
Maybe you are just feeling sorry for the looser that she is.
28. May 2008 at 4:26 am :
I think you sound like a very nice gentleman, who actually deserves better.I think that she is the insecure one, and takes her life, for granted.I would say she is trying to justify her wrong doings to you, to satisfy her own ego.i think personally you are better off without her, and you should try and get your life back.I think you should also advise her that if you want her back, she is to get herself some help, or else no way, you can do a lot better than this person, who is wasting her life, let alone yours.Good luck.
28. May 2008 at 4:48 pm :
Find yourself lucky that you escaped from ruining up your life with nothing in your hands. Buddy, move on in life just to get your sympathy she would say many things and do many things, just have her options open to be very frank. So cut off completely with her and carry on with your life.
29. May 2008 at 12:26 am :
Never let other people impose on you the idea that you’re a loser. It hurts even more when a person who is loser herself/himself but whom you loved nevertheless on everything betrays you. I loved a guy who was living in really poor area, did not have even college degree at his 25, wasn’t too much good-looking but was extremely in love of himself. I am 23, russian, good-looking and educated. I speak 3 languages and have good job in Moscow. But he thought he was superior just because he was american, although while we were in relationships he wanted to move to Russia. He never went to Russia, but tried to judge our life, traditions always and mostly negative. Life is blind and we do not see person’s disadvantages being in love. Just think that your lucky star, angels or whatever good force saved you from putting yourself into real trouble.
30. May 2008 at 11:52 pm :
Are you kidding me? She is depressed and a alcoholic? She probably feels you are too good for her. If you flaunt yourself about being “better” than a dopey… I couldn’t imagine what she felt like. Especially since she is addicted to alcohol and is depressed. She probably felt it would never work between the two of you… and wanted a guy that lives kinda the same life she lives.
2. June 2008 at 8:05 pm :
Dude what were you doing with her in the first place.She;s older and sounds like almost as big a loser as this ex guy. Let them have eachtoher, and cut this gal off. I mean no communication. Change your numbers, block her email. This isnt a burn it’s a reprieve