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Breakup drama?
ricejerry25 asked:
I got dumped last night by a woman I was seeing, for an ex-boyfriend of hers of 3 years who is a pot-head, pill-taker, and works as a baggage handler at the airport. The stigma of it is that she was trying to seal a “loser” status on myself because I recently lost my job. Myself, I’m 27, a college graduate, attending law school(am doing well have a 3.7 GPA), live alone, was working full-time, don’t do drugs, don’t take pills, not an alcoholic, am professional, and always try to treat others how I want to be treated, have goals and objectives, don’t have any children, and never was married. However, I know I’m not perfect but I am a good person who also is good-looking as well. Herself, she’s 32, lives with a gay roommate and several cats, takes anti-depressants, an alcoholic, got a DUI, is somewhat slutty and will sleep with anybody after a few drinks, works for an airline, and also as a customer service representative. How do I move on from this and not feel burnt or hurt?
I got dumped last night by a woman I was seeing, for an ex-boyfriend of hers of 3 years who is a pot-head, pill-taker, and works as a baggage handler at the airport. The stigma of it is that she was trying to seal a “loser” status on myself because I recently lost my job. Myself, I’m 27, a college graduate, attending law school(am doing well have a 3.7 GPA), live alone, was working full-time, don’t do drugs, don’t take pills, not an alcoholic, am professional, and always try to treat others how I want to be treated, have goals and objectives, don’t have any children, and never was married. However, I know I’m not perfect but I am a good person who also is good-looking as well. Herself, she’s 32, lives with a gay roommate and several cats, takes anti-depressants, an alcoholic, got a DUI, is somewhat slutty and will sleep with anybody after a few drinks, works for an airline, and also as a customer service representative. How do I move on from this and not feel burnt or hurt?
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19. November 2008 at 2:12 pm :
WHY were you with her in the first place?
22. November 2008 at 10:47 am :
my question also, why were you with her in the first place?
24. November 2008 at 1:31 pm :
Walk as far away as possible and keep walking; don’t look back.
25. November 2008 at 10:34 pm :
It’s gonna hurt, if you love her. But break and run now, hang out with YOUR friends and give yourself some time to grieve. Just keep this mistake in the back of your mind before you get involved with another “loser” girlfriend.
27. November 2008 at 12:48 pm :
Imagine yourself at an awards dinner in a swanky hotel 5 years from now. As you and your date (a beautiful well dressed woman) are walking out to your brand new BMW, you pass a coffee shop. Guess who is working there at 11 o’clock at night? mopping the floors, getting ready to close and go home to her ratty apartment? Oh, she will have to stop at the liquor store for her deadbeat guy who sleeps on the couch all day.
She sees you walk by.
Who is better off?
30. November 2008 at 10:43 pm :
Time will help you move on. Just like she has fallen for the bad boy, you have fallen for the bad girl. You really should thank your lucky stars she’s gone. A life with her type is a very unhappy life, you’d never know what she’s up to, and if she’s still doing crazy shit at her age then she’s definetly not mother material. You’ve got your whole life ahead of you and by the sounds of it your going places too. Why let someone like this drag you down? You have more class then that and deserve to find someone in your own class range. Let her go hon, or you’ll never be happy.
3. December 2008 at 6:36 pm :
Honey, I know how it feels when you are dating someone and they go back to their ex, and it hurts sooo bad!!!! I am sorry that this happened to you, when it hurts, it hurts.
What I want you to do is re-read your question and look at all your positive aspects you have going for yourself, and be proud of all of those and all of the accomplishments you have made for you and your life, you are doing this all by your self, and I am proud of you.
Look at her qualities now, and when you compare yours against hers, you will see that you totally do not deserve her, honey, get over her and you will find someone who you deserve and who will appreciate you for you.
You are wonderful, you are a great person with wonderful morals, and your standards are high.
Keep up the hard work and one day you will be rewarded!!!!!!
Look towards the future, it is bright for you, and oh, yeh, wear your sunglasses, you will need them!!!
4. December 2008 at 6:26 am :
Well let’s see your a law student? and she is a depress looser? isn’t that enough honey get your degrees and your education and find a woman with class.. it has to be more than this to your story if she was the way that she is a man like you with your potentials wouldn’t even give her a second look.. If she made her choice then let her go find someone new.. the best things about endings is the new beginnings.. go out have fun.. start over.. good luck.
5. December 2008 at 12:34 pm :
you feel hurt and burnt that you got rid of such trash?
i dont know why you settled for someone like that anyway if your so “normal”?
just forget it and be smarter when chosing life partners!
oh and i would be tested for all STD and HIV if she was “somewhat slutty!”
xx
8. December 2008 at 11:28 pm :
Stop your whining. She sounds like such a great catch, not!!
Stay in law school and keep working. A woman that is worth your time and effort is out there, you just did not find her with the woman you described above.
Your making a decision to feel hurt and burnt, so stop it already.
11. December 2008 at 5:07 pm :
You’re not a loser, but you must have low self-esteem.
Just remember, you will get through it, and you will be better off.
So, that being said, here’s your ego boost…
DUDE, she’s 32, lives with a gay roommate and several cats, takes anti-depressants, an alcoholic, got a DUI, is somewhat slutty and will sleep with anybody after a few drinks, works for an airline…heck all of the airline companies will be bankrupt in a few years anyway. And then she’ll really kick herself for getting back with her pot-head, pill-taker, baggage handler ex.
I’m a 24 yr old college grad, with her BS in Biology, who works full-time and doesn’t do drugs or pills, I am also not an acholoic. I am professional and always try to treat others how I want to be treated I have goals and objectives, don’t have any children, however my divorce paperwork is currenly being filed. I would be more than happy to find a person like you.
It’s hard to not feel burnt or hurt when a relationship ends, no matter how bad the relationship was…however, little boosts to the ego help.
15. December 2008 at 5:01 am :
Are you kidding. The way you move on is by thanking God that she left. She sounds like a low life . That kind of a person cannot appreciate a good person . Her idea of a perfect partner is someone who likes to get high with her and can provide all the drugs and alcohol she can use. Look you are asking yourself how can you meet a nice woman when even this low life left you. It doesn’t work like that at all. She lift you because you are not like her ,you are decent and responsible and she is not. Chill out just keep your standards high and the woman of your dreams will come along.Good luck.
15. December 2008 at 11:57 am :
from the sound of it you are the lucky one, its sounds like she wasnt going anywhere any way and she may have been holding you back. you sound like a great guy, try to find a girl with the same goals as you. it makes the relationship easier. goodluck
17. December 2008 at 10:00 am :
Don’t ever speak to her again or contact her in anyway!!! Time will heal your wounds!!!