mcnamaralouise asked:


I am 34 years old, single, no children, good-looking with a good job, nice home, lots of friends, interests and I am currently studying by evening for my masters. I meet men easily but never the right guy.

I am currently dating a divorced dad with 2 children who are 9 and 2 years old. He is only 29 years old. He got married to his ex because she became pregnant. He felt obliged to stay for the child but never really loved her. Then she had a second child, again against his will (she lied to him about taking the pill). He works as a baggage handler at the airport and she has a low paid job also so they couldn’t really afford a second child. Lot of problems continued after having the second child and they ended up divorcing. Then I met him and we fell in love. I love him deeply but he has absolutely no money. He lives in a room and the children come to stay with him there every second weekend. He is really good to them.
He says he loves me and would like to have a child with me in the future. However, I would have to pay for any children we have 100% as he has no money. I currently own a 2 bed apartment. If we wanted to have a child, I would have to buy a house and it would be me who would have to pay the mortgage almost fully. What should I do? I love him but the whole situation is complicated. I have one other question if I ever married him (and our incomes were combined) would he be forced to pay more alimony to his ex wife? Do you think I am still young enough to find a sinlge man with less baggage.
He can’t afford to take me out, go to restaurants or buy me flowers. I always pay for him when I take him out. Do you think even if I love him I will grow to resent him in this situation?
Would our combined incomes be taken into account for child support if I married him? I don’t think that is fair as I want to have enough money to pay for my own child.
He is a great guy who truly loves me deeply. I don’t mind paying for him now and again. He works hard and I am trying to help him get a better job so that he has more money to pay for his children.
I met his ex-wife. She told me that she regrets having trapped him and having the second child. She sometimes locks the 2 year old in a room for hours when he gets too noisy. I think this is outrageous. She asked her daughter to ask me how much I earn. I just don’t think I should be in this situation.

ricejerry25 asked:


I got dumped last night by a woman I was seeing, for an ex-boyfriend of hers of 3 years who is a pot-head, pill-taker, and works as a baggage handler at the airport. The stigma of it is that she was trying to seal a “loser” status on myself because I recently lost my job. Myself, I’m 27, a college graduate, attending law school(am doing well have a 3.7 GPA), live alone, was working full-time, don’t do drugs, don’t take pills, not an alcoholic, am professional, and always try to treat others how I want to be treated, have goals and objectives, don’t have any children, and never was married. However, I know I’m not perfect but I am a good person who also is good-looking as well. Herself, she’s 32, lives with a gay roommate and several cats, takes anti-depressants, an alcoholic, got a DUI, is somewhat slutty and will sleep with anybody after a few drinks, works for an airline, and also as a customer service representative. How do I move on from this and not feel burnt or hurt?

ricejerry25 asked:


I got dumped last night by a woman I was seeing, for an ex-boyfriend of hers of 3 years who is a pot-head, pill-taker, and works as a baggage handler at the airport. The stigma of it is that she was trying to seal a “loser” status on myself because I recently lost my job. Myself, I’m 27, a college graduate, attending law school(am doing well have a 3.7 GPA), live alone, was working full-time, don’t do drugs, don’t take pills, not an alcoholic, am professional, and always try to treat others how I want to be treated, have goals and objectives, don’t have any children, and never was married. However, I know I’m not perfect but I am a good person who also is good-looking as well. Herself, she’s 32, lives with a gay roommate and several cats, takes anti-depressants, an alcoholic, got a DUI, is somewhat slutty and will sleep with anybody after a few drinks, works for an airline, and also as a customer service representative. How do I move on from this and not feel burnt or hurt?
She emailed the very next day saying that she was truly sorry for hurting me, and doesn’t quite remember what all she said to me. She also stated in the email that she hopes I don’t hate her. She confessed all to what she had done, and agreed it was totally wrong. Does this mean in a roundabout way she was trying to push me away, and got an unexpected reaction out of me, and feels bad, sorry, or hurt that she hurt me in the process? Or does this mean she was just totally trashed and did not have any control over what she was doing that evening? Or does this mean she is just one totally mixed up woman with issues?